I’m often asked what Financial Domination means, or why anyone would be “stupid enough” to pay Me for “nothing”, etc. Today I wanted to write a little about what this fetish is from My point of view.

First off, let’s clear something up: this is not new. Financial Domination / submission has surely been around since the advent of money as a means of exchange. There is evidence of power play in sexuality starting with the beginning of civilization. Smart Women who understand their sexual power have been leveraging it to get what they want from men forever, whether it be control of the home life, freedom, personal favor or financial gain. The more recent popularization of the terms Financial Domination, FinDomme, Findom, Moneyslavery, etc are no indication that this is by any means a new thing. To the contrary, it is as old as any other form of relationship exchange between adults.

The next point I’d like to address is the way those who are not into this fetish view those who are as either foolish victims (mostly men) or unscrupulous predators (mostly women). The similarities between the way many people view those who engage in financial domination and those who engage in prostitution is interesting to note. Funny how the sexual part is widely accepted as perfectly normal until money is brought into the mix – then it must be evil, huh? I’ll save the “money does not make it evil” point for another time.

An example of the actual signs which used to be displayed around New Orleans, posted by the NOPD

Back to the point: Those who engage in Financial Domination and submission, like any other fetish, are consenting adults who enter the arrangement of their own free will. There is no force. No one is being bullied. A financial power exchange is no different from any other type of power play where one person willfully submits to the other and both derive pleasure from the act. Of course there are always some participants who aren’t exactly model citizens, but one can say that about ANY group of people who participate in ANYTHING. The overriding attitude in the fetish world is that everyone involved must be consenting adults, period. This includes the findom scene. (Don’t be fooled by the many examples of Women claiming to prey upon men’s weaknesses or men claiming to be used and abused – this is all part of the play.)

Basically, people engage in this type of fetish play, from either side, because they get off on it!

Now, exactly WHY do some people get off on handing over their hard-earned cash to others, for seemingly nothing? It’s simple: The appeal of any type of play involving domination and submission is in the exchange of power and control. The power exchange is thrilling, erotic. Most people view money as the ultimate symbol of power, so to give that to someone else for “nothing” is, for those who do it, the ultimate thrill. Further, many men simply find it humiliating to “have to” pay a Woman for any sort of sexual favor, so the act of giving a Woman money for “nothing” could be seen as even more humiliating, and therefore more erotic. (I won’t go into why some men get off on humiliation here – maybe another day.) Finally, there is a personality type that we call “givers” or “pleasers”. Some men simply derive pleasure from pleasing a Woman, making Her happy, making Her life easier by taking on some or all of the financial burden for Her. In still other cases, it is a simple matter of wanting to submit to a Woman in the most tangible way possible: financially.

Of course, it isn’t quite that simple. A man doesn’t get off on running around handing over his money willy-nilly to just anyone (something a lot of women mistakenly assume when trying to enter this scene and cash in on what they think is “easy money” without understanding the realities of it all). Rather, men who are into this seek out Women who fit their “types”: Those they find attractive in some way, who have personalities they like, who share their fetishes, who fit the description of a Dominant Woman they *want* to submit to.

We all know how much people enjoy receiving cash – so it’s easy to see why the FinDommes get off on Our roles in the scene But there is more to it than that. We derive pleasure from the power exchange as well. We get off on knowing We can exercise so much power over men that they willingly give Us money for “nothing”. And speaking strictly for Myself here, I just like CASH! I like to play with it, count it, smell it, stack it, pile it, roll around naked in it and of course spend it! I love it! I suspect most FinDommes have a similar Cash Fetish

At this point I’m going to wrap up with a quick MoneyDomme cash pic I took of Myself shortly after pulling out $3k in loser cash to play with I will write more later on some of the many variations of play people choose to engage in for scratching their Financial Domination and Submission itches. Enjoy!

Nothing makes Me happier than fat stacks of cash! I’m a happy Financial Mistress. hehe