If anyone doesn’t grasp that this is MY view on moneyslavery and financial servitude, please just move along now. The opinions of subs and Dommes are welcome in comments.
Instead of the usual bragging and clip-promoting (you can find My latest femdom and fetish video clips on My clips4sale store haha), I wanted to write about something that is a bit of a pet peeve of Mine: simple wankers calling themselves moneyslaves when they’re clearly not.
I shouldn’t have to state the obvious here, that I understand much of this self-labeling by wankers is just part of their fetish and fantasy play, but I will. Duh, I get it. you have a financial fetish, and calling yourself a moneyslave is part of how you get yourself off. This doesn’t mean you ought to make your official handle “moneyslave xyz”. Doesn’t that kind of dilute the whole experience for you anyway? ha
By calling yourself a moneyslave all the time, or basically anytime outside the context of a session, you’re pretty much slapping the REAL moneyslaves in the face. A moneyslave isn’t someone who just barely cracks his wallet open enough to get himself off when he’s horny or sluts all over the internet camming with every Female who calls Herself a Domme. A moneyslave is also not someone who expects a Woman to serve his needs for a few bucks. What is being described here is a wanker / paypig. you just want to get off and you don’t mind paying for it. Nothing wrong with that, but you are not a moneyslave and you don’t deserve to use that title.
A moneyslave is someone who actually wants to contribute to the well-being of (in this context) a Woman through financial sacrifice. he isn’t concerned with what he’s going to “get in return” – he surely DOES get something out of it, but it’s not a transactional thing where he gets measurable units of Y in exchange for X amounts of money.
Even if you have a cashpig fetish and enjoy sending money to whatever Women turn you on, without necessarily expecting “something” in return, you aren’t really a moneyslave. you are still just a wanker / paypig getting off on spending money for Women. A slave is someone who serves another on a consistent basis where a relationship develops and grows over time. Therefore a moneyslave is someone who FINANCIALLY SERVES another on a consistent basis, and a relationship inevitably grows with that.
I realize a lot of boys out there may actually wish to serve a Woman in some type of Findom relationship, but just haven’t found what they’re looking for in terms of a partner. Yes, I mean partner – any relationship is a partnership, whether D/s or otherwise. I consider My mr p a partner, even though he is clearly My slave and not what I consider My equal. And yet he is, in a way, My equal because I choose to have a relationship with him and obviously I like him as a person. Ironic or contradictory, perhaps. It makes sense to Me. Put another way, as My slave he is My exact opposite, which translates to My equal in the context of a D/s relationship.
Back to the point. I thoroughly dislike seeing all the wankers running around calling themselves moneyslaves when they are clearly not. It is even more annoying because I know many of you are just doing it to attract money-hungry Faux-Dommes to toy with.
The only good thing about the whole thing (for Me) is that when a boy calls himself “moneyslave xyz” it serves as a great douchebag-flag. LOL
The weekly writing from mr p
Everything’s bathed in light and the soothing sound of the beach. You stride out of the bright blue sea and look around You. The sea has made Your red hair dark. You are happy but i don’t know what You’re thinking. And i won’t be there.
It’s dark because i wake up. Hit the alarm clock, which i hate.
Check email to see if there’s anything from You. Nothing. Check twitter. No surprise that You’re still up and playing.
Go to work. It’s still snowing. Pretty.
Move through the day. Think about You. i’m glad You’re not sick anymore. i’m glad You’re better.
Still haven’t gotten over how cool and smart You are.
Go to sleep.
Good article ! Just wanted to comment that in most businesses / hobbies / etc., there are warning signs for “idiots”. You call them douchebags. In my profession we call them DICKWEEDS ! I figured You would like that extra knowledge
Obviously i just like making You smile, not trying to make light of the post.
I don’t mind having a little fun, as I’m sure you know from twitter. haha
There are always warning signs for assholes in every situation, of course. But My “douchebag-flag” was really just My general term for those warning signs, rather than calling the idiots douchebags. Of course they ARE douchebags, but that’s another point altogether
Goddess very well written. You always are able to cut to the chase and sprinkle in a bit of humor. I do like shopping on your wish lists and buying gifts for you. I am always so happy when you send pictures wearing the gifts i have sent. I would not call myself a money slave because i know i have not applied for the position and only the Goddess gets to label her servants. Hopefully i can continue to shop on your wish lists and send gifts but if not i have enjoyed meeting you. I dont like to label myself but i like the sound of “Wishlist Concierge”. Sweet dreams Goddess.
LOL! I think I like “wishlist slut” until further notice
Speaking of pics, I have a shitload of tribute porn to post sooooooon!
Your “douchebags” sound like “attention whores” to me, whether they’re calling themselves moneyslave________ or sissy______ or whatever. and You are absolutely right that their sole motivation is egocentric.
i try to eschew labeling myself. just like i do my utmost not to waste anyone’s time, which is why i keep pretty silent. in fact, if You hadn’t said “read & comment”, i wouldn’t have stepped out of the shadows now. i hesitated before i subscribed to Your blog. i hesitated, just far less, before following You on Twitter.
i don’t consider myself a “moneyslave,” but i’m just about smart enough to recognize that cash is the lubricant that facilitates communication. i’m also smart enough to know how easily manipulated i can be &, therefore, how it benefits no one to initiate contact unless and/or until i’m in a position to stand and deliver. since this is not yet the time, i’m simply slip back into the shadows now and let the fascination grow.
I’m sure all Dommes will agree that boys who don’t try to engage until they are ready, willing and able to deliver are much appreciated
I always appreciate comments on My blog posts – they aren’t meant to be one-side monologues. I like getting others’ reactions and opinions. That actually motivates Me to blog more.
I really enjoyed this blog and the comments, it’s a pleasure to have a trip through the mind of an intelligent Domme. The other commenter said it well that you cut through the BS and make Your point. As a general rule, I think a slave is someone devoting themselves to serve another, without any expections for something in return. I get a better picture of what You mean by a wanker now, it’s not just a “you’re a loser wanting to get off” comment, it’s actually pretty accurate. You appreciate that they serve a purpose, and they get something out of it. Well of course earning a smile from a Domme is always a reward in my eyes. And truly serving a Domme is far more rewarding, so I always wondered if You see wankers as baby steps to becoming a real slave.
Of course the wankers serve a purpose, so long as they’re respectful and play by the Domme’s rules. I believe there are 2 types of wankers: 1) those who are self-serving and only want to get in, get off, get out; 2) those who want to serve but are in between relationships or haven’t found one yet. Obviously those who want to be slaves are few and far between, just like the real slaves are.
Excellent article. i always think that choosing moneyslave, cashpig, ATM etc as part of an online moniker is the equivalent of jumping up and down shouting “look at me, look at me” and we all know that the best response to such people is to not look. Moneyslave is an awfully overused term i would imagine that there are precious few real ones out there. i guess though it does get a guy some attention from the newer Dommes who haven’t yet learned how to read the signs and spot the wasters. Personally i hate to see the term slave in someones user name unless they are owned but that is just me.
Haha. I don’t really dig use of the term slave as a handle at all, even if the person is owned because it still smacks of attention-seeking even then.
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Hello Goddess,,, I believe that what you said is completely true. personally, I am more of a paypig rather than a money slave, not because I don’t what to be a money slave but I can’t since it needs strict commiment.
I am more thatn happy to be your paypig… you are perfect
Then get busy spending, wanker! I have no time for non-spending losers.